I’ve written about it here before, but a year later I am still struggling with nature vs. nurture in two ways. Mainly because I am starting to believe there is no such thing as nurture at all. My kids were born with complete personalities all their own and I find it hard to imagine that I influenced them in any way other than providing my DNA.
Second, they were born with completely opposite natures. Thanks, Mother Nature/Mother Hood for not throwing me a bone with two kids that are at least a tiny bit similar. I’d like to be able to apply the hard lessons I work out on the first child, to the second child, but you had other plans for me it seems.
Of course, they are still young, just one and three-years-old (even if this is the last week I can say that). So as they grow can I get my cautious son to be more bold? And can I temper my fearless daughter with just a touch of mindful awareness? If so, how? Because everything I do just seems to reinforce the way they already approach the world.
I’m exploring the topic I call “Parenting Upstream” over at Moonfrye today.